The title of this post may be a little misleading: there are MANY reasons why the anti-gay-marriage agenda should make feminists unconfortable. Partly there’s the simple fact that feminists are human beings who believe in equality, so there’s that. But I feel it’s also something more specific.
More and more these days I am hearing people trying to disassociate themselves from homophobic bigots by saying something along these lines: “I totally respect gay people and absolutely believe that they should have equal rights, but the definition of ‘marriage’ is a relationship between a man and a woman, centred on procreation. Gay partnerships should be recognised as equal, but they shouldn’t be called ‘marriage’.”
As a human being who is capable of smelling bullshit, but also specifically as a feminist, I find this statement almost more disturbing than the out and out tin-foil-hat-wearing loonies screaming about how Teh Gayz want to brainwash your children. I mean… at least the blatant homophobes are honest about where they’re coming from, you know?
The “I believe in equality, BUT” people are making some extremely disturbing conclusions that they probably don’t even consciously realise.
They are saying that we are all basically just walking uteruses (uterii?) and penises. They are saying that love does not matter. They are saying that infertile couples should not get married. They are saying that my entire purpose in life and love is to squeeze a baby out of my nether regions, because that’s all that’s important.
Heaven forbid you are a woman who doesn’t want to have children. (And you’d better not be gender-queer in any way, because we don’t even acknowledge that you people exist!)
Everyone knows that Traditional Marriage is the only REAL marriage! You know, when your dad sells you for the price of a few goats to a man you’ve never seen before where you become his property and can legally be raped or abused whenever he feels like it. Yeah! Traditional Marriage is the best! Oh and also you’d better make sure you and your husband have matching levels of pigment in your skin, otherwise you’re going to get lynched. BECAUSE TRADITION.
Ugh. The argument from tradition is the stupidest fucking thing I have ever heard. Probably even stupider than the argument from religion. Technically no one knows God’s divine opinion on these things, but we KNOW that human beings have done some fucking stupid things in the name of tradition (genocide, slavery, etc) and yet some people STILL persist in pretending it’s the valid basis for an argument. If “But it’s always been this way!” is the best that you can come up with, you need to sit the hell down and shut the hell up, you puffed-up failure of an intellectual peon.
I’m more than a walking uterus. People are not property. Love actually matters.
That is all.